We’ve all been there. One. Two. Or, maybe what seems to be like a hundred times before! Another break-up.
What did I do? How did I handle it? A few days ago, I was blessed with an opportunity to speak life into a friend who’s in the midst of a break-up. After hanging up the phone, I reflected over my past break-ups.
Break-ups are hard! They’re emotionally draining. You know he’s not the one but that doesn’t make it easier. You can’t sleep. You dwell and share the story over and over again with all your girlfriends. In the midst of telling my break-up story for the hundredth time, I thought, “I should just record myself. Send it to my girlfriends and tell ’em, ‘Listen to this and then call me!’” Chile, even telling the story was draining my energy! Ha!
When does the pain stop? When will the broken pieces of your heart become whole again? While I don’t know the exact time, or place, I know for certain the pain will end and your heart will be restored. You WILL love again! Until then, here are a few things you must do after a break-up:
#1 Surrender to God
The enemy has convinced you, in spite of all his lying and cheating, you made a mistake. You’ve seen pictures of he and his new boo and now all of a sudden, you think you’re missing out. According to you, “they look so happy.” Now you’re tempting to go begging and pleading. DON’T!!
No good thing will the Lord withhold from you. You must take God at His word. You’ve prayed and asked God to show you if he’s the one. How will He ever show you if you keep interfering? Have several seats boo-boo!
For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.
#2 End ALL Communication
Stop accepting his phone calls! Listen, you’ve been with this man forever. He should’ve said everything he needed to say before “forever” ended. Like, what is there to talk about? The more you allow him access to your heart, the longer it’ll take for your heart to heal. #accessdenied
#3 Clean House
That picture on your nightstand. The junk, yes junk, he left at your house. The bracelet he brought you. Throw it out! On second thought, maybe you should keep the bracelet. Ha! But for realz, you need to put that stuff away. If you’re not ready to completely throw it away, I understand; HOWEVER, it should not be visible. The first thing you see when you wake up, and the last thing you see before going to bed should not be a picture of him. MmmmmKKKKK!
#4 Perform Social Media Housekeeping
Stop stalking his social media accounts. Stop stalking his new boo’s account. If you don’t want to unfriend his family, at least unfollow them. When y’all broke up. You broke up with the family too. #buhbye
#5 Change Your Environment
Attend the same church? Find a new one. Live in the same apartment complex? Move. Work at the same job? Quit. Run girlfriend! You ain’t runnin’ from him, you’re sprintin into your future.
I wanna hear whatchu gotta say, girl. Drop your tips below, a sista out there needs help!