Dating Tip #2: Jesus Saves, Not You

Jesus Saves, Not You |

Real quick, if you missed the first tip, you can read it here. Now let’s jump into the second tip.

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Have you ever tried to save a man? You know like, come to his rescue when he’s struggling? For example,

Your man doesn’t have a cell phone. You add him to your plan.

Your man doesn’t have a place of his own. You move him into yours.

Your man doesn’t have a job. You find him a job AND complete the job application.

Your man doesn’t have enough money to take you to dinner. You pay for it.

Your man doesn’t have a car. You give him yours.

Your man doesn’t go to church. You drag him to yours. … God can make him stop cheating on you, right? 

Superwoman! Please rip that cape off!

Jesus Saves, Not You!

“for today in the city of David there has been born for you a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.” Luke 2:11

It’s not your responsibility to save him. There’s only one Savior, Christ the Lord. Lanes are made for separation, stay in yours!

My Personal Story

After graduating college, I was offered a full-time position in Colorado. At the time, I was dating a man who was struggling to find his place in life. Together we decided it would be a great idea for him to move to Colorado as well. Thank God for grace and mercy! In my short-sighted, limited thinking, Colorado was a bigger city with better opportunities for him. I threw on my lil cape, swooped him up, and off to Colorado we flew.

This was definitely not one of my best decisions in life. Like you, I’m imperfect. I didn’t/don’t do everything right, but God is merciful. He redeemed my story. God was/is faithful through it all. Even when I was a hot mess dot com, He patiently waited for me to get my WHOLE life. With tears in my eyes, I know if He did it for me, He’ll do the same for you! His blessings aren’t simply for those who do everything right.

God has united you with Christ Jesus. For our benefit God made him to be wisdom itself. Christ made us right with God; he made us pure and holy, and he freed us from sin. Therefore, as the Scriptures say, “If you want to boast, boast only about the Lord. 1 Corinthians 1:30-31

I boast in the Lord! Why? Because His blessings have nothing to do with me, but everything to do with Him! You see, Christ makes you right with God. He makes you pure and holy. Christ saves you. Christ saves him too. With no help from you.

Reflect & Respond:

So, have you ever tried to save a man, or are you currently holding his life vest?

Don’t leave me out here by myself! Tell me your story in the comments below, or shoot me an email at

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  1. Girrrrrrlllllll, I have popped, locked and dropped my phone! Not only have you called out my man, again, but you are talking about my momma and my sister! I am starting to take offense! Lord, what are you saying! This post has me sitting at work paralyzed! Why must we wait a whole week for part three? My soul is needing this good tea! You have truly spilt “tea”! I’m sending my momma and sister your way, they need to be mad too ;).

    1. Now tell me… Have you regained back feeling in your body? 🙂 Girrrrrrll, you made me fall out of my chair laughing. I truly believe we’re friends in real life. I just love your personality. Like me, I can tell you enjoy laughing and having a good time. I can’t wait to read your comment next week!!

      On a more serious note. I’m so amazed at the way in which God is using me. It’s truly the Holy Spirit speaking through me. He knows everything about you. Moreover, He knows exactly what you need to hear and when you need to hear it. Praise God for giving us what we need and NOT what we deserve.

      I pray the scales are removed from your eyes. That you come to know your true identity. You are worthy. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done. Don’t allow your past to keep you trapped. You’re royalty! You’re the daughter of a King. A King who formed heaven and earth from nothing – by His very own hands! If He can create something out of nothing, what makes any of us an exception? May your eyes and heart be enlightened to the Truth. I’m praying for you and sending you all the virtual hugs girlfriend!

      Welcome to the blog momma and sister!! I hope you’ll stick around for the tea too.


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