You grew up in church. You gave your life to Christ at a very early age. I was seven.
At the basic level, you knew being a Christian meant being “good.” You were taught to respect your elders. To obey your parents. To do what your teachers told you to do.
Just as you’d learned being disrespectful was wrong, you also learned sex before marriage was wrong. Not necessarily because someone explained it to you, but because “momma said so.” You knew that being disrespectful resulted in a whooping, but what about the consequence of sex? Pregnancy?
Sex was always the big elephant in the room – nobody talked about it. It was a subject your parents avoided like Walmart on Black Friday. Moreover, you never even heard a sermon about sex.
Diets and Sex
When you start a diet, you’re given rules to follow. Eat more vegetables. Eat more protein. Exercise at least 30 minutes a day. Eliminate junk food. Avoid eating past 8pm.
You’re absolutely miserable when dieting. You crave the crunchy chips, the chocolatey candy bars, creamy ice cream, and good ole fried chicken. Although giving up your indulgences ain’t fun, you buckle down and press in. You know you’ll reap a reward if you hang in there.
The idea of wearing your favorite pair of jeans again, or the thought of the number on the scale decreasing, fuels you. You’re determined. You’ll do whatever it takes for the sweet reward of being snatched dot com!
Just as you reap the rewards of dieting, you also reap rewards of being obedient to God by waiting until marriage to have sex. Keep reading, I’ll explain more.
Everybody Else Is Doing It
All of your friends are having sex. They seem to be enjoying it. None of them fell dead or went up in flames. So, what’s the big deal?
Sin is fun. Dr.Tony Evans said, “If sin ain’t fun, you committing the wrong sin!” #oookkkkaaayyy
You’ve read the scriptures: sexual immortality is an act of the flesh, sexual immortality has no place among God’s people, and sexual immortality is against your own body …
I’ve read it all before, bobbing your head, and singing to the tune of Sunshine Anderson’s, Heard It All Before. Don’t worry, I won’t preach to you. Instead , I’ll spill the tea on my own, very personal experiences. #beentheredonethat
I had sex before marriage. Like you, at the time I didn’t see the harm in it. But, sin has consequences. While you might not reap the consequences immediately, you will eventually reap ‘em.
My husband and I made a commitment to God, and each other, to wait until we were married to have sex. I know God was pleased with our obedience but I still carried around the guilt from my past, B.C. (Before Chris).
We were showered with gifts from all of our loved ones. I reached the pinnacle of what most girls dream, become a wife. To most, Chris and I had it all BUT in the back of mind, there was one gift I couldn’t give him – the gift of an unopened box. Because I made a decision to have sex before him, before marriage, I would never be able to give that to him. Oh how I longed to give that to him. Tears were streaming down my face. What should’ve been one of the happiest moments in my life, guilt and shame washed over me.
Scripture says you’re made in the image of God. But so often, you create God in your own image. You’re still holding a grudge against a friend who betrayed you in high school so how in the world could God, in all is majesty, forget your sins? **Newsflash** God ain’t like you! Can we just praise Him for not being like you? … I’ll wait!
I don’t understand it either, but you don’t have to understand it to receive it. Your job is to just receive it by faith.
I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. Isaiah 43:25 NIV
God chooses not to remember your sin. I made a choice not to wallow in the shame. I chose to accept God’s forgiveness. It’s available to you too.
Call To Action
Don’t allow guilt and shame from the enemy to keep you from experiencing God’s best!
Just because you’ve committed the sin of sex before marriage doesn’t mean you must continue. You can stop right now. Today. God desires your heart. He desires for you to choose Him. Over your flesh. Over your man. Over everything. Will you honor God with your body?
~Ta-Ta For Now, Teacups